A New Normal

The journey to become parents has been all about
being afraid of then discovering and denying
and adjusting to, a "new" normal.

We are no longer that newly married couple, who ditched
the birth control in hopes of making a baby.
We are no longer that couple who is just taking
some pills to become pregnant.
We are no longer a couple that hasn't been to
every specialist in the area to talk about our babymaking issues.
We are no longer that couple who hasn't lost a baby (or four).

We ARE a couple who has put our energy (and money!)
in to fertility treatments, doctors' appointments,
and countless pregnancy tests and tricks.
We ARE a couple that has heard
"I'm sorry, there is no heartbeat."
We ARE a couple who was freightened to death
during the labor and partial delivery of 13 week twins.

More than this, though,

We ARE a couple who are growing closer to
our faith, both individually and together.
We ARE a couple who witness
over and over again the generosity and
compassion of our family, friends and colleagues.
We ARE a couple who is more deeply in love
and more committed to each other
and to parenthood than ever before.
Now, THAT's my kind of "normal".